Rebecca & Stephen

Dear Birth Parent,

How amazingly brave, thoughtful, and loving you are to consider bringing this baby into the world. We can’t imagine what you are going through, but we know your love and compassion go beyond words in making this decision. That kind of love shows how beautiful and courageous of a person you are, and we support whatever you choose to do.

Our family is full of love, faith, commitment, and trust. We met in church youth group when we were teenagers, went to the same college, and have been together ever since. We were unable to have children of our own, so we decided adoption was our best option for growing our family. We are committed to raising a child who is loving, kind, honest, and caring. As teachers, scientists, and faithful Christians, we will foster an environment filled with fun, learning, and creativity that inspires a child to achieve her / his dreams. We are so excited to share our lives with you and your child, and we look forward to an opportunity to get to know you better and share in this journey.

Rebecca: Stephen is the love of my life and will make a terrific dad. He is kind, caring, and fun loving. He is a great mentor to the youth of our church. Working with our church youth group has given him skills that will be an asset as a father. People know that Stephen is someone who can be counted on to help where he is needed. He is a brilliant scientist who loves to ask why something works the way it does and is eager to help your child learn about the world as he or she grows. He is a natural teacher. Stephen has many talents including being a fabulous singer who loves all kinds of music. He also loves sports especially basketball and football and traveling to new places. He can hardly wait to teach a child all he knows about whatever sport they choose. Stephen enjoys trying new things whether it is riding a new roller coaster at an amusement park or visiting somewhere we have never been. Stephen is the best man I know and will be the best father. He is already the best husband anyone could ask for.

Stephen: I was changed forever the day Rebecca walked into my life. She’s my everything! No words can describe the beauty of her heart and soul. Rebecca’s amazingly smart, loving, generous, caring, thoughtful, and kind. She will be a great mom. Rebecca is always faithful and actively engaged with our family, church, and friends. She is always there for me; my everything. I love her with all of my heart. Rebecca loves to serve others, care for animals (she’s actually a licensed veterinarian too!), teach, plan and host events, watch movies and shows, and tirelessly send cards and letters for birthdays, anniversaries, prayer, and encouragement. She loves to travel and explore adventure parks like Universal Studios and Disney, take boat and tour rides, visit scenic and historical locations, and cheer for our team at football, basketball, and baseball games. Rebecca is an amazing woman, and will be an amazing mom.

We live in a 4-bedroom, 2.5-bath home with big playroom, 2-car garage, and fenced-in back yard. Our neighborhood is safe, has tons of children who play together outside, a community swimming pool, basketball, volleyball, and tennis courts, and has an elementary school across the street. We love our neighborhood! We also love animals, and currently have 1 dog (Arya) and 3 cats (Nala, Chloe, and Melody).

We love to go on trips, watch movies, decorate for holidays, volunteer, play board games or video games, travel to the beach and mountains, and pull for our team at college football, basketball, and baseball games. We are leaders in our church youth group and music programs, and are always doing fun things with our church family and friends.

Our family is loving and loyal, and we want you to know that in our home, an adopted child will be unconditionally loved and supported. We will devote our lives to providing an adopted child with the love and resources we can offer within a safe and stable home. We want our adopted child to know where they came from, and to have contact with you as an integral part of his / her life. We plan to raise our child with an understanding and appreciation for you and the sacrifice you are making. As youth leaders, we have years of experience helping children of various ages learn and grow to the best of their abilities. We envision our adopted child will have every opportunity to learn and grow to their full potential in our home, and a life-long support system. This begins with a well-rounded education, freedom to choose their own path, and support to achieve long-lasting success. We will raise this child to have a good moral character and to always stand up for what they believe. We will also be open about adoption with this child. It is important for a child to know where they come from, and we are open to the possibility of establishing and maintaining an active relationship with you, the birth parent(s).

Thank you for taking the time to read our profile and considering us as adoptive parents to your child. We have a lot of love and support to give, and we know whichever decision you make it will be the right choice for you. It is our hope that you are at peace with that choice.

Rebecca & Stephen


Natalie & Ben

Dear Birth Parent,

Thank you so much for taking the time to get to know us. We are so excited about adopting! For years we have tried to have a biological child and we have not been able to. Your bravery could give us the chance to see our dreams come true. We will love your child unconditionally. When we realized that we could not have children we knew in our hearts that adoption was our only option. We will love and cherish your child in a safe and nurturing home. Your child will be surrounded by loving friends and family that cannot wait to meet them.

We met when we were in college. We went on our first date and got engaged 6 months later. Now we have been married 14 years! We are both very close with our families and cannot wait for your child to get a chance to play with all five of their cousins. We cannot wait to share our lives with your child!

Natalie: Ben is my rock. He is the kindest most considerate person I have ever met. He always sees the good in people and wants to give people a chance. He is a hard worker and always wants to make sure he is able to provide for us. He loves to make me laugh. He is also the most loving person I have ever met. He is a big guy but he is never shy to give out hugs or share how much he loves people. He takes great pride in keeping up our home. He has strong morals and family values that are going to make him an amazing father. He enjoys eating healthy meals, and working out. He is a musician and who plays the guitar and sings. He enjoys lazy days watching sports, playing video games and playing with our dogs. He truly is the most amazing man!

Ben: Natalie has my heart. She is the complete love of my life. I cannot imagine what life would be like if she were to be somewhere else. She has been so incredibly good and loving to me throughout our marriage. She looks out for me and fills our home with joy each day. She is thoughtful and kind toward all her friends, family, and co-workers. She is an excellent listener and seeks to understand first, is patient in all matters, and wants each person, with whom she interacts, to feel comfortable and welcome. With a caring heart, she is selfless in every sense of the word and likes to see others succeed. She will put her heart and soul into meeting someone’s needs. She is always responsible, hardworking and applies herself to the fullest in everything life throws at her. Natalie enjoys family holidays, creating and observing beautiful art, listening to fun and encouraging music, going on lunch dates, taking long walks and practicing yoga, making tasty and healthy hot meals, watching documentaries, taking time with her family, shopping at farmers’ markets, and home holiday decorating. Natalie is an amazing, unique human being. I consider my undeservedly blessed to call her my wife.

We live in a great family neighborhood. We are close to lots of parks and great schools. We live in a 3-bedroom, 2 ½-bathroom home. We have a 2-car garage and a large fenced in backyard. We share our home with our two dogs Della and Layla.

We look forward to the journey ahead of us! Thank you for taking the time to learn a little about us. We know we will not always be perfect, but we look forward to the love, tears, laughter, and celebrations to come. We wish you peace and blessings.

Thank you!

Natalie & Ben


Jimmy Wayne: A Winter’s Tale

See the videos:
Sara Smile, his cover of the 1976 Hall & Oates hit, with the duo on backing vocals
Do You Believe Me Now, his first No. 1 country hit

He’s a foster kid who grew up to be a country music star and best-selling author. Jimmy Wayne has toured with Brad Paisley, recorded with Hall and Oates, and performed at the Grand Ole Opry more than 215 times. He’s cracked the Billboard Hot Country Songs Top Ten and the New York Times Best-Seller list – multiple times. But he’s never forgotten how it felt to live in the streets or to bounce between homes as a child.

In 2010, Jimmy walked halfway across America (from Nashville to Phoenix) to raise awareness for kids aging out of the foster-care system, and in 2014 he released Walk to Beautiful: The Power of Love and a Homeless Kid Who Found the Way, a three-time New York Times bestselling memoir. His next book, Ruby the Foster Dog, is scheduled for release in November.


Assistant Operations Manager | Asheville

GENERAL JOB SUMMARY

The Assistant Operations Manager is primarily responsible for providing management, consultation, training, supervision and program oversight for Assessment center staff under the direction of the Operations Manager.

MAJOR JOB RESPONSIBILITIES

  1. Monitor and assure compliance with all licensure, accreditation, and contract provisions and standards.
  2. Provide on-call services and consultation to assigned programs. Provide on-site consultation, as well as on-site management training.
  3. Serve as liaison with the North Carolina Department of Public Safety, Division of Juvenile Justice, local mental health programs, and Departments of Social Services agencies.
  4. Supervise the development plans and implementation of those plans for assigned Assessment Center staff and managers.
  5. Supervise the delivery of training, consultation, and quality assurance services.
  6. Provide verbal and written reports as required to the Operations Manager and/or Vice President of Program Services and to funding and referral sources.
  7. Develop and implement program operations procedures, goals, and tasks for the Assessment Center that meet or exceed statutory and accreditation standards.
  8. Perform other tasks and responsibilities as assigned by the Operations Manager.

QUALIFICATIONS

Knowledge and Experience

Bachelor’s degree in human service field from an accredited college or university.

Minimum of one (1) years’ experience in program management and development. Must have experience in residential programs, model of care implementation, Teaching-Family Association and all aspects of program and people management.  Must be flexible in work hours to meet the needs of programs. This position requires skills in training, public speaking, team building, hiring/dismissal, organization, and time management.  Must perform well under pressure.

Skills/Working Conditions
  • Must maintain a valid Driver’s License and an acceptable driving record.
  • Must be insurable by Methodist Home for Children’s insurance carrier.
  • Must be able to work in high pressure, high stress environment.
  • Computer literacy, advanced writing and editing skills, and organizational skills are essential.
  • Must be able to work a flexible schedule, including nights and weekends, and holidays.
  • Possible exposure to infectious diseases.
Physical Requirements
  • Must provide a negative drug screen result prior to employment.
  • Must pass a post-employment physical and TB test.
  • Have the ability to perform physical demands associated with daily operational functions and client interactions, such as walking, standing, bending, and lifting.
  • Have the ability to comprehend and produce accurate program documentation, including, but not limited to, staff documentation, budget documentation, and community correspondence.
  • Have the ability to communicate professionally in both verbal and written formats with consumers, including, but not limited to, parents, colleagues, and community service providers.
  • Have the ability to drive for agency related events during the day or night.
  • Regular attendance at primary worksite and agency related events.

Closing Date: Open Until Filled



Travel Raffle

Jimmy Wayne has us in the mood for Nashville Unplugged – one of five incredible trips in our Best of Travel raffle.

Buy tickets ($100 each) for the chance to take a trip of your dreams.

nashville_

Nashville Unplugged: Tours of Country Music Hall of Fame & Museum and Ryman Auditorium, three-night stay at Renaissance Nashville Hotel, airfare for two

charleston_

Charleston Luxury Getaway: Private historical photo tour of Charleston, dinner & wine pairings at Charleston Grill, Belmond Charleston Place three-night stay for two

bourbon_

Kentucky Bourbon Trail: Distillery tours & tastings at Stitzel-Weller, Maker’s Mark, and Jim Beam; lunch in Bardstown; private chauffeur; three-night stay; airfare for two

SD_

America’s Cup Yacht Sailing in San Diego: Sailing experience on America’s Cup yacht, Estancia La Jolla three-night stay in San Diego, airfare for two

sports_

Ultimate Pro Sports Fan Getaway: Lower level tickets to choice of a select regular season MLB, NBA, NFL, NHL, or PGA event, two-night weekend stay, airfare for two


Meet our HELP students

Lance B, Beaufort Community College, is working toward a high school equivalency credential.

Montrell B, Craven Community College, is pursuing a degree in business. He recently earned a high school equivalency credential.

Savion B, Beaufort Community College, is working toward a high school equivalency credential. He hopes to enroll in an automotive trade program and earn a business degree.

Ralph B, Fayetteville Technical Community College, is pursuing a degree in general construction contracting.

Vnette B, University of Mount Olive at Wilmington, is pursuing a degree in health care management.

Jonie B, Wake Technical Community College, is pursuing a degree in cosmetology.

Zedekian B, Craven Community College, is enrolling in the barbering program. He recently completed testing for a high school equivalency credential.

DeMikael C, Durham Technical Community College, is pursuing a degree in business. He recently earned his high school diploma.

Shavonna C, N.C. Central University, is pursuing a bachelor’s degree with plans to study law.

Sarah D, Campbell University, is pursuing a degree in elementary education and a middle grades extension with a concentration in math.

Christian H, Beaufort County Community College, is working toward a high school equivalency credential.

Nicholas H, John Tyler Community College, is pursuing a degree in biology.

Jada M, Wake Technical Community College, is pursuing a degree in culinary arts.

Samantha M, Wake Technical Community College, is pursuing a degree in psychology.

Bryce M, Pitt Community College, recently earned his high school diploma.

Lea M, Mitchell’s Academy, is pursuing a certificate in esthetics.

Andrea M, N.C. A&T State University, is pursuing a degree in business education with a concentration in information technology.

Abyjah M, Craven Community College, is pursuing an associate degree.

Kaili P, Wake Technical Community College, is pursuing a degree in applied science.

Pilar P, Wake Technical Community College, is pursuing a degree in veterinary science.

Rayshaunda R, Marymount University, Va., is pursuing a bachelor’s degree with plans to study chiropractic medicine.

Tyanna R, East Carolina University, is pursuing a degree in early childhood education.

Tyshawn R, N.C. Central University, is studying engineering and business management.

Christian S Beaufort Community College, is working toward a high school equivalency credential.

JW, Wake Technical Community College, is pursuing a degree in biology.


Have Car, Will Travel

Janice Sanders is part of our family preservation team in New Hanover County

The first rule in helping families stay together is meeting them where they are.

It was a rash, inexplicable decision.

The 19-year-old single mother had no reliable childcare for her son while she worked. Sometimes she’d get help from the child’s father and his family, but when she showed up at their home one Tuesday morning, expecting to drop him off, no one would answer her calls or knocks on the door. So she placed the 1-year-old boy on the front porch, left a voice message saying he was there, and she drove to her job. A neighbor found the child crying in the yard and, on that day, history repeated itself. The boy was placed into foster care, just as his own mother had been years earlier.

Janice Sanders is part of our family preservation team in New Hanover County, and she talks about working with the mother:

These cases can be hard, but we start with the positives. This mother loves her son, and she wants to be a good parent. She has housing and a steady job in retail. But she struggles with staying calm and making reasoned decisions when she’s upset. She never learned to do that. As a child, she was neglected in a lot of ways. She didn’t get the basic bonding and parenting we take for granted, and she ended up in the social services system, bouncing between foster homes and group homes. In the process she missed out on some basic coping skills, and the only way she knew to respond was to lash out or push back.

Now that she’s a young parent, she can see how this behavior is costing her own child the stability he needs. It’s been difficult for her to learn these lessons now, rather than earlier in life, but I feel like she’s made monumental progress. We’ve practiced and role-played so that she’s able to control her emotions and work through problems with counseling. She counts before she responds to something she doesn’t like. She keeps a journal to track how she’s doing. We’ve also used some simple techniques to help her think through choices, to see the pros and cons before acting.

I’ve worked in this field more than 25 years, and experience has shown me there’s good in all of us and there’s always opportunity to get it right. For some, it takes longer. In this case, I see a young mother who is becoming empowered for the first time in her life. She still has to meet social services’ goals to get her son back, but she is learning to stay in control and take responsibility. With that, I am satisfied.

Family preservation services help parents build skills they need to prevent or minimize foster care placements for their children.


Ms. Jeffie is ready

The call comes without warning: A child in crisis needs a safe place to go. “Ms. Jeffie” is ready.

When social workers drive up to Jeffie Abernathy’s house, there’s usually a teen or pre-teen in the backseat who doesn’t want to be there. Some refuse to get out of the car; others threaten to run, like her last one, a 12-year-old girl. “She told me she was not going to stay here,” Jeffie says. “She said, ‘I don’t know this woman. I want to go home.’ ” But that child was about to learn what many others have come to know: It’s hard to resist the grandmotherly warmth of “Ms. Jeffie.” Not only that, sometimes it’s hard to leave when your time is up.

Jeffie is a rapid response foster parent, and she takes children with mental health diagnoses and intense needs. They stay only two weeks, but she piles on the love and prepares them for whatever comes next.

It takes a special kind of foster parent to reach these children. This is how Jeffie does it:

  • The first thing I do is assure them that they’re going to be all right here with me. I say, ‘When you walk through this door, you are mine. You are my grandkids.’
  • Then I ask what they like to do, what they like to eat. It’s all about what I can do to help them. On Saturdays I might take them to the movies or we go grocery shopping. I like them to relax. On Sundays we go to church. Love and structure – that’s what a lot of these kids need.
  • But I have my rules. I ask them to keep their room and bathroom clean. I tell them, ‘Do not take things. You don’t have to. All you have to do is ask, and if I don’t have it here, I will get it.’ Some children still take food and hide it.
  • On the day before they leave, I ask what they want for dinner. I’ve had one child come back to me a couple of times, and he wants a steak with a baked potato and salad. My last one wanted a Subway sandwich.
  • Sometimes they’re not going home. They might be going to a residential treatment facility, and I tell them to be positive: ‘You’re in this place for a reason, and it could help you with your strengths. Go with a positive mind and you will be all right. Accomplish your goals.’
  • I always take their picture so I can look back and think about them. And I tell them: ‘I am here for you. If you need me, call me. If you need somebody to talk to or if you want to hang with me, if I don’t have a child in care, we can hang.’ I want to be that person they can believe in, that grandmother they’ll listen to and know that I won’t tell them something wrong.

Jeffie’s photo album includes a smiling shot of the 12-year-old who’d stood in her driveway and threatened to run away. In their time together, Jeffie learned the girl loved croissants, no cheese; chai tea with cinnamon; yogurt with Oreo crumbles on top. She loved to ride horses. And, when her two weeks were up, she also loved Jeffie. “She told me before she left, ‘Ms. Jeffie, please don’t ever retire. You need to keep on doing this because you have helped me.’ It feels so good when a child says that to me. It’s just a blessing to be able to help.”

About Ms. Jeffie

• Mother of two, grandmother of seven, great-grandmother of two
• Retired from a 23-year career at International Paper in Alabama
• Moved to North Carolina to be near her daughter’s family
• Worked with special-needs adults before fostering children
• Foster parent since 2012
• Rapid response parent since 2015

Rapid response foster homes offer short-term care for children in immediate crisis as they move between foster homes, group homes, or psychiatric residential treatment facilities.


Assessment Center Specialist

GENERAL JOB SUMMARY

The primary responsibilities include the coordination of the referral process as well as the admission and discharge planning for the center. This includes receiving direct referrals from consumers, assessing for appropriateness, information gathering, and information sharing. Serve as the primary liaison for the families and court services staff for the admission process.  Role also includes the conducting intakes, completing documentation, data tracking and retrieval, discharge planning, and other tasks related to the assessment process.

MAJOR JOB RESPONSIBILITIES

  1. Receive and assess referral information prior to admission. Arrange the intake process at admission.
  2. Join with and support families as their child goes through the admission and discharge processes.
  3. Arrange Child and Family Team Meetings.
  4. Provide Family Crisis Counseling as recommended by the Standardized Program Evaluation Protocol (SPEP).
  5. Assist with discharge planning and maintenance of timelines
  6. Provide direct care coverage when necessary.
  7. Assist in developing and maintaining productive community resources to support program and client rehabilitation objectives.
  8. Maintain a provider data base.
  9. Conduct outcome follow up and information gathering leading to effective reporting.
  10. Perform other related duties as requested by the Director.

QUALIFICATIONS

Knowledge and Experience

Bachelor’s Degree in a human services field.

Two (2) years of experience with client population.

Skills/Working Conditions
  • Must maintain a valid Driver’s License and an acceptable driving record.
  • Must be insurable by Methodist Home for Children’s insurance carrier.
  • Must be able to work a flexible schedule and shifts including weekends, holidays, and extended periods of time.
  • Must successfully complete all phases of pre-service and on-going training, including, but not limited to, physical restraint training, First Aid, CPR, Universal Precautions, and medication administration.
  • Must be able to work in occasionally high pressure, high stress environment.
  • Must be able to provide 24 hour on-call supervision.
  • Computer literacy, advanced writing and editing skills, and organizational skills are essential.
  • High level of accuracy and detail orientation required.
  • Position may experience verbal and/or physical aggression from client population.
  • Possible exposure to infectious diseases.
  • M

Physical Requirements
  • Must provide a negative drug screen result prior to employment.
  • Must pass a post-employment physical and TB test and on-going physical assessments as required.
  • Have the ability to perform physical demands associated with daily operational functions, property management, and client interactions, such as standing, bending, lifting, participation in physical activities, facility cleaning (interior and exterior) and maintenance, and other rotating assignments.
  • Have the ability to comprehend and produce accurate program documentation, including, but not limited to, client treatment plans, progress summaries, and community correspondence.
  • Have the ability to communicate professionally with consumers, including, but not limited to, parents, colleagues, and community service providers.
  • Have the ability to provide on-going visual and physical proximity supervision of clients.
  • Have the ability to participate in recreational activities with clients, including, but not limited to, arts, athletics, and outdoor activities.
  • Have the ability to drive a van to transport clients.
  • Have the ability to drive for agency related events during the day or night.
  • Regular attendance at primary worksite and agency related events.

Closing Date: Open Until Filled